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A Landscape Gardener - a man who made things grow.
He was my grandmother's father, and is the tragic figure of our family history. When my grandmother was three years old, he hanged himself from a cherry tree. His youngest child was just a year old. For three generations, that final act has been almost all we have known about him. My grandmother, in her own history, wrote, "I know I can remember his bringing me home a sack of candy. That is all I do remember of him."
But today I stumbled across a series of news articles that tell at least part of the sad story of the last decade of his life:
In the 1880s and 1890s he was several times arrested on the city streets and incarcerated, investigated and committed to the Territorial Insane Asylum. From the perspective of our current understanding of mental illness, it is clear that he was suffering from periodic psychotic episodes.
Here is a small portion of one of the interviews as reported in the newspaper:
"Do you sleep?" was asked of Stay. "Never," he replied. "A man who is avenging a wrong never sleeps."
"Do you dream?" "Don't you know that the man who never sleeps, never dreams."
"You have impressions?" "I have revelations - I can hear sweet voices talking to me, telling me what to do."
"Do you act on it?" "Yes, sir."
"Did they impress you to attack the man yesterday?" "No, sir, but I knew he had no business on the street."
The examination closed, Stay was adjudged insane and ordered committed.
He was committed to the asylum at least three times in a ten year period. Between episodes, he was able to return to work: he wrote to the editor with suggestions for when and how to prune trees and shrubs, was listed as a judge in the county fair, and was elected as a delegate to the State Horticultural Convention. But he couldn't control what we now know to be an organic illness. In the end, the illness beat him. Here is the last news article:
Manti Messenger Newspaper 30 April 1898:
Joseph Stay of Mill Creek, a landscape gardener, committed suicide by hanging on Friday last. Stay was recently released from the state insane asylum. He became despondent and planned the hanging bee in which he figured as the principal character.
Father of nine children: Joseph Charles, Dott, Rebecca, Aden, Ruth, Rose, Jesse, Catherine, and Val.

Joseph heiratete Woodbury, Mary Cornelia geschätzt 1880. Mary (Tochter von Woodbury, Thomas Hobart und Miller, Harriet) wurde geboren am 31 Mrz 1857 in Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA; gestorben am 24 Jan 1930 in Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA; wurde beigesetzt in Salt Lake City Cemetery, Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA. [Familienblatt] [Familientafel]

1. Stay, Ruth wurde geboren am 23 Mrz 1885 in Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA; gestorben am 17 Jul 1920 in Tremonton, Box Elder County, Utah, USA; wurde beigesetzt am 20 Jul 1920 in Tremonton, Box Elder County, Utah, USA.

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My 2nd great grandfather.
He was a landscape gardener.
OBITUARY: Deseret Evening News 6 January 1903 - JOSEPH STAY'S FUNERAL
Will Take Place Thursday From the First Ward Meeting House.
The funeral of Joseph Stay, whose death was announced in last night's "News," will take place in the First ward meeting house on Thursday, the 8th inst., at 1:30 p.m. Friends of the family are invited. The remains may be viewed at the late residence, 738 Wellington avenue, from 11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m., the day of the funeral
As there were some inaccuracies in last night's account of deceased, the following information furnished by Reigo Hawkins, a son-in-law, is cheerfully given space: Joseph Stay was 80 years, 9 months and 19 days old. He had been a resident of Utah since 1876 and had been paralyzed for 14 years, 8 years of which he had been utterly helpless. Nearly five years ago he buried his aged and faithful wife, shortly after celebrating their golden wedding. He was true and faithful to his covenants, a consistant Latter-day Saint, and a friend to the poor and needy, giving of his means liberally. He leaves four daughters, all of whom are faithful members of the Church. They are Mrs. Sarah J. Powell, Mrs. Charlotte E. Hawkins, Mrs. Louisa Woodbury, and Mrs. Rebecca Warburton. He also leaves 21 grandchildren and four great grandchildren.
Son of Peter STAY & Sarah MUSSEN.

Joseph heiratete Pearce, Sarah Jane am 7 Jul 1846. Sarah wurde geboren am 6 Mai 1825 in , Wiltshire, England, Großbritannien; getauft in 1841; gestorben am 6 Mrz 1898 in Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA; wurde beigesetzt in Salt Lake City, Salt Lake County, Utah, USA. [Familienblatt] [Familientafel]

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Nachruf; Die Deseret News 12. März 1898
6. März 1898 in ihrem verstorbenen am Wohnsitz, 788 South Wellington Avenue, in dieser Stadt des Alters und der allgemeinen Schwäche. Sarah Pearce Bleiben. Der Verstorbene wurde am 6. Mai 1825 in Kingswood, Wilts, England, geboren; wurde um das Jahr 1841 in die Kirche Jesu Christi der Heiligen der Letzten Tage getauft; war am 7. Juli 1846 mit Joseph Stay verheiratet; 1858 ausgewandert; blieb 18 Jahre in St. Louis; kam am 20. Oktober 1876 in Salt Lake City an. Sie war Mutter von 8 Kindern; 24 Enkel und ein Urenkel. Fünf ihrer Kinder und ihr betagter Ehemann leben noch. Sie starb, wie sie gelebt hatte, eine treue Heilige der Letzten Tage und in der Gewissheit einer glorreichen Auferstehung.
Tochter von Charles PEARCE & Mary LACY.